Saturday, December 4, 2010

On a more personal note...

I just had an interesting conversation with a friend of mine. She filled me in on the gossip in our circle of friends. One thing that we talked at length on, that has still caught my imagination, is that people change when they become involved with others. She noted some changes in one friend in particular and I can't help but wonder if the changes we notice aren't a reflection of what these two people wanted in a relationship. Currently, they appear happy with each other, with their lives, with where they are and where they are headed. It's not necessarily what anyone else would have expected of each of them alone, or even of them as a couple. From where I stand it's not my call, but it looks good. I'm happy for them - together and individually.

What has caught my attention is that people do change when they are in a relationship. I have been alone long enough that I am looking forward to the changes that are imminent once I get to share my time, my space and my life. Will the changes be surprising? Probably. Probably surprising to me as well. Will I have to defend my choices? Isn't that an interesting bit? It dawns on me that while I've been alone I only defend myself. I could never do justice in defending one that attaches to me. Isn't it enough that one would be with me? That should be defense enough for any of my friends. It is a strong enough statement, I think, that some one would be by my side - that'd be pretty damn awesome all by itself.

1 comment:

  1. I envy people who know what they want, and feel worthy of it. I don't put myself in either category, sadly.